Dads Deserve So Much Better | One Mom’s Perspective
I remember it like it was yesterday. I was in the car, listening to the radio when I heard a public service announcement come on to encourage dads to step up and be present in the lives of their kids.
When I heard the PSA, the first thought that popped into my head was, "I wonder why I didn't hear public service announcements about moms needing to be more present in the lives of their kids last month around Mother's Day."
Face it - dads tend to get a bad rap for not spending enough time with their kids, but in all fairness, the same lack of attention also applies to moms. And believe it or not, not all dads are self-centered and so absorbed in their work lives that they neglect their family.
When my son was born, things didn't go at all how we imagined they would. I had to have an emergency C-section and was in excruciating pain for days afterward, but I will never forget how my husband stayed right by my side, taking care of literally everything those really hard first days. I was actually just sitting at the kitchen table, tearing up as I explained to my in-laws how much their son did for me and for our boy when we first became parents and how my husband continues to be extremely hands and involved to this day. I sincerely couldn't have asked for a better husband or father for my child.
There ARE so many dads just like my husband who don't get the recognition that they deserve because instead of hearing about all the good dads, news about the bad ones is constantly at the forefront. I feel like we need to change that. We need to start talking about the fantastic dads that we know.
I find myself getting super defensive whenever I hear someone bash on dads and say that they have no idea how hard moms have it. I can't speak for all families, but in ours, my husband has stepped up time and time again. Jay has managed to balance errands, cooking, cleaning, working a full-time job, and spending a heap of quality time with our son.
The independent research firm Toluna says that 40% of men and 36% of women feel that fathers don't get as much attention as they deserve on Father's Day. So, sad.
If you have an amazing dad, let him know how much you love and appreciate him. The day will come when he won't be around anymore and trust me, you don't want to live with the regret of having left things unsaid.